asexuality

[j***@hotmail.com]

Hello everyone,

I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?

Thanks for your time.

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[With Jesus being (as far as we can tell) unmarried, and Paul
specifically recommending not getting married, it's hard to see how
one could say it is mandatory for Christians to be married. --clh]

[B.G. Kent]

Post by j***@hotmail.com
Hello everyone,
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?
Thanks for your time.

B - I don't believe you'll never get married. There are asexual groups on
the internet and married couples who never have sex. I think sexuality and
non-sexuality is diverse and not all folks have to be the same. The garden
has all kinds of flowers. If God wanted us all to be one kind of person
that would be like expecting each of us to only have one thought..one
vocation...one food preference..one hair colour etc. God asking us to be
fruitful and multiply, in my beliefs, is not about population growth but
about creating and showing and sharing our gifts...multiplying that which
we can
create...not just children. Everyone creates.

Bren

[mcv]

Post by B.G. Kent

Post by j***@hotmail.com
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?

B - I don't believe you'll never get married.

Why not? There are lots of people that never got married. I have an
aunt that never got married. In her case it was because she never met
the right person, for others there's another reason.

Marriage is great, but it's not the ultimate goal in life. Perhaps God's
plan is for the original poster to never get married. Who's to say?

I, for one, tend to be very suspicious of people who claim to know God's
plan. I think they tend to confuse their own plans with God's.


mcv.

[B.G. Kent]

Post by mcv

Post by B.G. Kent

Post by j***@hotmail.com
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?

B - I don't believe you'll never get married.

Why not? There are lots of people that never got married. I have an

B - I never said he wouldn't..I think that is chances of marrying are just
as good as not marrying. YOu assume I meant more.

Post by mcv
I, for one, tend to be very suspicious of people who claim to know God's
plan. I think they tend to confuse their own plans with God's.
mcv.

Bren

[shegeek72]

Post by j***@hotmail.com
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?

"God's plan" usually varies according to the person proclaiming it. In
my view, "God's plan" is unconditional love. When people were nomadic
procreation was needed to increase population and is not needed in
today's burgeoning populations.
--
"It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows."
~Epictetus

[Terence Nesbit]

Post by j***@hotmail.com
Hello everyone,
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?
Thanks for your time.
----
[With Jesus being (as far as we can tell) unmarried, and Paul
specifically recommending not getting married, it's hard to see how
one could say it is mandatory for Christians to be married. --clh]

Boy, the subject is not really hard, just that someone will probably get
angry at what I'm about to say for yet another reason. Nothing I can do
about that.

God does not waste anything. There is someone that you like, and just
haven't met yet (although I have no idea how old you are), or you did and it
was not reciprocated. The Bible, Jesus in particular, declared that their
are only three groups that can not marry: Those that can't create from
birth; those that can't create because of an act of mankind; and those that
refuse to do so for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake.

No, you don't have to chase after everything that walks, contrary to popular
belief. But I don't believe that you are asexual either. Perhaps you want
the real thing, something that lasts. There is nothing wrong with that. Or
perhaps it is simply not wanting to have kids, which could be a problem. It
used to be that people could pair up from when they were young, today you
can barely meet someone during lower school age because most people want
everyone else to play the field. It is amazing that some people have been
married for 30-50 years.

[Steve Hayes]

Post by j***@hotmail.com
Hello everyone,
I would like to know the opinion of those in this newsgroup about
asexuality. The reason I ask is because I'm asexual. If you're not
familiar with the term an asexual is a person who does not experience
sexual attraction. An older relative once said that I'm going against
God's plan for me because I'll probably never get married. Is there
any truth to this?

As trhe moderator has pointed out, you won't be going against God's plan if
you don't get married.

Monks don't marry, though not necessarily because they are asexual, but if God
called you to be a monk and you were asexual then there would be some
temptations that you would not have to struggle with.

Do the down side is that there are some good aspects of human live and
existence that you miss, but to counter that, there are some temptations
experienced by other people that you don't have to struggle with either. On
the other hand, you might face the temptation to judge more harshly those who
face temptations that you yourself are unaware of. Most of us have our
favourite sins that are most tempting to us, and we tend to judge them more
leniently than we do those that don't tempt us.

[j***@hotmail.com]

Thanks for all the replies. It has given me things to think about.

[B.G. Kent]

You are very welcome .
blessings.
Bren

Post by j***@hotmail.com
Thanks for all the replies. It has given me things to think about.

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