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2007-02-06 02:01:59 UTC
There is much discussion is christianity about man not
alone but what about women? It says in Genesis that it is
not good for man to be alone therefore Eve was created.
What about women? It is not good for anyone to be alone
unless they like being alone and are content with it. But if they
are not then it is bad. Yet many people especially in
christianity find it hard to find anyone and this pervasive
notion that God will bring someone makes it worse because
so many people adhere to that.
Statistics say there are more women than men so where
does that leave women who want a spouse? I guess for
many, out in the cold.
Combine that with many men are only in church and
professing christianity to get a woman with no real desire
to follow God. Then there's the ones that truly christians
but for some reason have no real desire for a spouse or
believe in the adage that God will bring them someone
therefore it is sinful to be looking or if they have to look
they are usurping God's authority and taking matters into
their own hands which could be farthest from the truth.
I've seen this adage repeated many times on various
christian message boards and amongst church leaders.
Plus not every man is christian further shortening the list
of acceptable men. Every church leader and christian is
quick to point out the whole unequally yoked thing not that
I disagree with it but it certainly makes a woman's choices
very limited in who she can date and marry.
Combine this with more women born than men and there's
a serious shortage of available Godly, christian men.
No one wants to be alone which can lead to doing things
that under healthier circumstances might not otherwise
come to pass. I say unhealthy because none of
these things are inherently healthy and unfortunately there
is nothing that one of us can do about biologicals, society,
behavior of other people.
I guess this brings me to my last opinion. Were men ever
really designed to be monogamous(rather married to just
one woman)? Or is this something modern society came
up with to try and make men more subservient to one
woman? And give the courts something they could actually
refer to when granting a divorce?
I'm not condoning adultery but put all this together and is
it any wonder women are having relationships with married
men? Certainly women should seek to find a single man
first and many do. No woman deliberately seeks a married
man, it just happens.
Certainly no woman on the receiving end of the unfaithful
husband can or will sympathesize with the other woman
nor would I really expect her to. I certainly wouldn't even
if it were partly my own fault.
But when it comes right down to it, there is only one reason
a woman will see a married man and it's because she
doesn't want to be alone any more than any one else. She
wants love and affection just like every one else and when
it isn't forthcoming from proper channels she sometimes
takes improper channels. It isn't right nor fair that she would
impose on someone's elses marriage but life is not fair. In
this world we take what we can get where we can get it.
It isn't always Godly or right. It's just the way it is.
Being alone is not fun. Having no one to love you is not
fun.
And before anyone starts in about what a lowlife the other
woman is(yes, what she's doing is not right) but the man is
just as guilty. Probably more so because he's out looking
when he knows he shouldn't be. Then there's the wife in all
this and before anyone says she's the innocent victim no
one is innocent in things like this. Maybe some men just
stray because they can and are compulsive cheaters but
that doesn't describe every cheating husband. Some are
just lonely and not getting their needs fulfilled at home so
are looking for it elsewhere. I don't condone what they are
doing just stating a fact.
I realize this will most likely get a pounding of responses
on what kind of idiot(or more harsh words) I am but I don't
really care.
alone but what about women? It says in Genesis that it is
not good for man to be alone therefore Eve was created.
What about women? It is not good for anyone to be alone
unless they like being alone and are content with it. But if they
are not then it is bad. Yet many people especially in
christianity find it hard to find anyone and this pervasive
notion that God will bring someone makes it worse because
so many people adhere to that.
Statistics say there are more women than men so where
does that leave women who want a spouse? I guess for
many, out in the cold.
Combine that with many men are only in church and
professing christianity to get a woman with no real desire
to follow God. Then there's the ones that truly christians
but for some reason have no real desire for a spouse or
believe in the adage that God will bring them someone
therefore it is sinful to be looking or if they have to look
they are usurping God's authority and taking matters into
their own hands which could be farthest from the truth.
I've seen this adage repeated many times on various
christian message boards and amongst church leaders.
Plus not every man is christian further shortening the list
of acceptable men. Every church leader and christian is
quick to point out the whole unequally yoked thing not that
I disagree with it but it certainly makes a woman's choices
very limited in who she can date and marry.
Combine this with more women born than men and there's
a serious shortage of available Godly, christian men.
No one wants to be alone which can lead to doing things
that under healthier circumstances might not otherwise
come to pass. I say unhealthy because none of
these things are inherently healthy and unfortunately there
is nothing that one of us can do about biologicals, society,
behavior of other people.
I guess this brings me to my last opinion. Were men ever
really designed to be monogamous(rather married to just
one woman)? Or is this something modern society came
up with to try and make men more subservient to one
woman? And give the courts something they could actually
refer to when granting a divorce?
I'm not condoning adultery but put all this together and is
it any wonder women are having relationships with married
men? Certainly women should seek to find a single man
first and many do. No woman deliberately seeks a married
man, it just happens.
Certainly no woman on the receiving end of the unfaithful
husband can or will sympathesize with the other woman
nor would I really expect her to. I certainly wouldn't even
if it were partly my own fault.
But when it comes right down to it, there is only one reason
a woman will see a married man and it's because she
doesn't want to be alone any more than any one else. She
wants love and affection just like every one else and when
it isn't forthcoming from proper channels she sometimes
takes improper channels. It isn't right nor fair that she would
impose on someone's elses marriage but life is not fair. In
this world we take what we can get where we can get it.
It isn't always Godly or right. It's just the way it is.
Being alone is not fun. Having no one to love you is not
fun.
And before anyone starts in about what a lowlife the other
woman is(yes, what she's doing is not right) but the man is
just as guilty. Probably more so because he's out looking
when he knows he shouldn't be. Then there's the wife in all
this and before anyone says she's the innocent victim no
one is innocent in things like this. Maybe some men just
stray because they can and are compulsive cheaters but
that doesn't describe every cheating husband. Some are
just lonely and not getting their needs fulfilled at home so
are looking for it elsewhere. I don't condone what they are
doing just stating a fact.
I realize this will most likely get a pounding of responses
on what kind of idiot(or more harsh words) I am but I don't
really care.